Many are intrigued by the question of what precisely constitutes an unpleasant individual. Almost everyone can identify at least one person who is particularly challenging to deal with, causing frustration and discomfort simply by being around them. In essence, these individuals embody the very definition of being disagreeable.

Recent findings from the University of Georgia shed light on this phenomenon, particularly highlighting that many individuals perceived as highly disagreeable are middle-aged men. The research, published in the journal Collabra: Psychology, involved nearly 400 participants who were asked to reflect on the person they considered the most disagreeable in their lives and identify the traits that led to this perception. The study revealed that qualities such as manipulation, aggression, and a sense of entitlement were commonly associated with these individuals.

Interestingly, the study found that the negative traits identified in these disagreeable individuals are similar to those found in profiles of people with psychopathic, antisocial, and narcissistic personality disorders, as outlined by experts. However, the researchers clarify that these similarities do not necessarily imply that every disagreeable person has a personality disorder.

Brinkley Sharpe, the study’s lead author and a doctoral student, highlighted that participants had little difficulty identifying the most disagreeable person. Many were former romantic partners, previous employers, or estranged family members. The study also noted that participants typically did not feel a strong bond with these disagreeable individuals, which aligns with the general perception of their behaviour as particularly off-putting.

Interestingly, some participants still had these disagreeable individuals actively present in their lives, including within their circle of colleagues, friends, and even current romantic partners. These individuals were often described as not only disagreeable and prone to anger but also as lacking consideration for the feelings of others and exhibiting behaviours that suggested an inability or unwillingness to regulate their anger, act responsibly, or hold inclusive views.

The research further explored the awareness and attitudes of these disagreeable individuals toward their behaviour. Findings indicated that while they might be aware of the negative impact of their actions on others, they often lacked the inclination to change. This aspect of their personality was reflected in behaviours that, while not always directly antagonistic, demonstrated a disregard for the perceptions and feelings of others.

The study’s responses varied widely, from minor grievances to more severe accusations of criminal behaviour. Some participants expressed frustrations over seemingly trivial matters, while others reported significantly more harmful actions. This variation underscores the complexity of human behaviour and the subjective nature of what makes someone particularly disagreeable.

Moreover, the study highlighted contemporary issues such as disregard for public health measures or political affiliations contributing to perceptions of disagreeability. That points to social norms’ evolving nature and broader societal developments’ impact on personal relationships.

Researchers, including Courtland Hyatt, Donald Lynam, and Joshua Miller, collaborated to highlight the multifaceted nature of disagreeability. They suggested that derogatory terms carry specific connotations and reflect underlying behavioural patterns. This research underscores the importance of understanding the characteristics associated with disagreeability and provides insight into the dynamics of personal and social relationships impacted by such behaviours.

More information: Brinkley M. Sharpe et al, “They Are Such an Asshole”: Describing the Targets of a Common Insult Among English-Speakers in the United States, Collabra Psychology. DOI: 10.1525/collabra.32552

Journal information: Collabra Psychology Provided by University of Georgia